When it came to the home-for-dinner dilemma, I installed new boundaries, ones that worked better for me and the girls. We made our schedule and stuck to it. ...It went back to my wishes for them to grow up strong and centered and also unaccommodating to any form of old-school patriarchy: I didnt want them ever to believe that life began when the man of the house arrived home. We didnt wait for Dad. It was his job now to catch up with us.

Becoming by Michelle Obama