Being human always points, and is directed, to something, or someone, other than oneselfbe it meaning to fulfill or another human being to encounter. The more one forgets himselfby giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to lovethe more human he is and the more he actualizes himself. ... What is called self-actualization is not an attainable aim at all, for the simple reason that the more one would strive for it, the more he would miss it. In other words, self-actualization is possible only as a side-effect of self-transcendence.

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl