For me, there are actually two lenses through which to view what happened to you. There is the science-based explanation of the effect early trauma has on the brain. And then there are the myriad daily actions each of us take throughout our lives that are the result of, and that reflect back on, such trauma. These are the actions that, on the surface, look like bad decisions, bad habits, self-sabotage, self-destruction-the actions that cause others to judge. Oprah Winfrey, What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

What Happened To You? by Bruce D. Perry